You crossed my mind today...

I wish Heaven had a phone so I could hear your voice again.Thought of you today, but that is nothing new. Thought about you yesterday, and days before that too. I think of you in silence, I often speak your name. All I have are memories and a picture in a frame. Your memory is a keepsake, from which I'll never part. God has you in his arms. I have you in my heart.

On December 15th 2005, I lost a best friend.

She crossed my mind today.

Wendy Lema.

She was all of maybe 5 feet tall

a full blooded Irish gal with

RED hair and freckles

and a ton of spunk!

:)

We had met in an odd way...

back in 1997 when I lived with my then

new boyfriend in Modesto

He had gone out with his work buddy, Doug.

Well that night, he didnt come home.

At about 3am, I got a call.

The woman on the other line asked for me

and I confirmed that she was speaking with her...

She said,

"You dont know me, but Im Doug's girlfriend and I have your man here passed out on my couch"

"I didnt want you to worry so I got your number out of his phone"

I thanked her and remained upset at him for getting that drunk!

We would always joke about that night!

We became close and a couple years later both got pregnant; me with my 2nd

her with her first. We were 3 1/2 months apart.

I had my son, she had her daughter.

Through the years, we would visit and keep in touch as we moved

a couple of hours away. Everytime we moved, Wendy and Doug were

there to help, no questions asked.

We would joke, drink, eat, laugh, watch the kids play,

go for a walk, hit up the store..

Wendy was a diabetic. She controlled it well.

She did slip into a coma once thru the years I knew her..

but was always a fighter.

The last time I saw Wendy was at my wedding in June of 2005.

We hadent spoke in a few months so I was unaware that

she had lost her job and her and Doug decided to

end their relationship.

But for me, she came with Doug and Kalani

as a family to celebrate with us.

(Kalani in the red dress dancing at the reception)

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I got the call that morning of the 16th...

I had missed Dougs call the day before...

I wish I handnt. Not that it would have mattered.

Just been another day of greiving.

Apparently Wendy got sick with a fever and flu like symptoms.

Supposidly was having trouble getting her diabetic meds

since she lost her job and insurance.

She went to a free clinic to get medical care...

but because she had developed a rash

they turned her away.

Said to come back once the rash cleared up.

Wendy Lema died that night.

Her daughter, Kalani, found her on the couch.

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Rest in Peace Wendy Angel

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(I dont have pics to post because Im on my work computer but i'll post a pic of Wendy this weekend)

Kalani 10 yrs old

Kalani is getting so big, and even though I know she has a big family

now, she still misses her mama but knows mama's

her guardian angel.

We miss you too Wendy!

Until we meet beyond the gates.....

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